HOW TO WIN FRIENDS

Do you belong to the group of people who find it hard to make new friends? Whether you do or do not, you still need to know what make people like you and want to be your friend. Dale Carnegie, author of “How to win Friends and Influence People” has suggested six points that you should practice when dealing with other people.

1    .      Be interested in them

Have you ever seen a dog waiting for its master and jump up on his lap wagging its tail happily? That is true affection. And this warm feeling shown by the animal makes people want to keep a dog. In the same way, you should show your warm and feeling towards other people. Make them feel that you are interested in whatever they feel, think and do.

2     .      Smile

A smile is magic. It can melt an iceberg if done properly. Smile when you meet the people you know or the people you are going to have contact with. Always smile in such a way that it reflects that phrases “I Like You”, “You Make Me Happy”, or “I am Glad to See You”.

3     .      Remember names

A person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Therefore, always try to remember names; concentrate hard when introduces to somebody, repeat and fix his name in your mind. If you meet him again use his name, in a friendly way.

4    .      Be a good listener

It doesn’t mean that you have to listen all the time without anything in a conversation, but means you have to encourage others to talk more about themselves. People want to be listened to and they are more interested in themselves and their wants and problems. Listen even their complaints about a rotten tooth, for it means more to them than anything.

 

5     .      Talk in terms of their interest

Have you ever heard Franklin D. Roosevelt? When expecting a visitor, he prepared by reading up on the subject in which he knew his guests was particularly interested. In so doing, he could talk about what his visitor treasured most. Roosevelt was well known not only for his positions as President of USA but also as a man who had a wide range of knowledge and as a good conversationalist.

6     .      Make them feel important

This is not an easy job but not an imposible one either. Make them feel important sincerely. Do not expect to get some thing out of it. Simply make them happy. In any situations try not to be rude and always be polite. Have the habbit of saying “I am sorry to trouble you….”, “Would you be as so kind as to…..” or “Thank You”.

Ask yourself if you do these things. If you don’t, then apply them in your daily life, according to Mr. Carnegie you will be popular with lots of friends and be successful in life. Always keep in mind the saying ”people need people”.